Finding people
Finding someone when you only know their first name
Search engines need a surname. People don't. If someone would recognise the moment, the moment is the identifier — and that's what to write.
Describe the situation before the person
Where you were, what was happening, what time of year, why you were both there. Two people who shared a moment describe the situation almost identically, and describe each other completely differently.
Include the things you'd feel silly writing
The drink they ordered, the bag they carried, a phrase they repeated, how they laughed. Odd details do the matching work; adjectives do none.
Say what you'd want to say
One honest line about why you're looking makes people answer. Keep it short and free of pressure — and never put your phone number or address in a public post.
What noknokk can do
- Match on place, time and detail with no surname at all
- Let the other person recognise your memory and claim it
- Keep contact details out of public view automatically
What it can't
- Look anyone up in public records or social media
- Find someone who hasn't posted or been shown your memory
- Pass on a message before you have both accepted
What to write down
- 1. Where it happened, as precisely as you can
- 2. The month or season and the year, even roughly
- 3. Three details you'd feel slightly embarrassed to include
- 4. What you'd say if they replied tomorrow
How your privacy works here
Read the full safety rulesNobody sees your name until you both say yes
Identity, photo and contact stay sealed on both sides until each of you accepts.
No DNA, no records, no people-search
We hold no birth, adoption or care files and buy no data. Only what people choose to write.
A permanent do-not-contact switch
Turn it on and you stop appearing to anyone, in both directions, for good.
No public profiles
There is nothing to browse about you — only the memory you chose to post.
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